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I'm being blackmailed with intimate photos or videos. What do I do?

First, breathe. It is not your fault and you are not alone. The people who do this rely on fear, shame and haste — so you pay before you can think clearly. But paying doesn’t free you; it encourages them. Your power is to not react, keep the evidence and ask for help. You are the victim here, not the guilty one.

First steps, right now

  1. Stop and breathe. You are not to blame and you are not the only one — this happens to many people, of all ages. Panic is exactly what they want.
  2. Do not pay. Paying doesn't stop anything — they usually ask for even more after the first amount.
  3. Do not reply and do not negotiate. Don't send more photos, messages or money. The less you react, the better.
  4. Keep the evidence: screenshots of the profile, the messages, the amounts demanded and the account address. Don't delete the conversation — it helps with the police report.
  5. Block the person and report the account on the platform (Facebook, Instagram, etc.).
  6. Tell someone you trust and file a report with the Police (Poliția Română). Blackmail is a crime, and you are the victim.

What NOT to do

  • Do not pay and do not give in to pressure — paying only encourages them to demand more.
  • Do not send more images or money "to make it stop".
  • Do not delete the conversation or their account — they are evidence.
  • Do not isolate yourself out of shame. It is not your fault, and the people who love you will understand.

How to spot it next time

  • A new, attractive account that rushes the conversation towards intimate photos or videos.
  • Right after (or even without you having sent anything), they demand money so they "won't publish".
  • They threaten to send it to your friends or family; they count on fear and shame.
  • AI variant: FAKE intimate photos, made from your public photos. It is still blackmail, and you are still the victim.

This guide is meant to help you act fast. It does not replace official instructions from your bank, the police or the authorities. When in doubt, call the numbers above.